I think the biggest issue or struggle that we have is just our totally different communication styles. I’m a blabber, and Adam’s a processor, but he rarely ever explodes. It’s just always there, always there.
You almost sometimes want him to let it all out. I do, and I’m just like, can you just right? But he doesn’t want to because he knows if he matches my energy, it’s just going to spiral out of control.
On the newest episode, our daughter Danielle was feeling better after suffering an autoimmune disorder flare-up. When it comes to her autoimmune stuff, she could be feeling horrible and not able to get out of bed, and the very next day, she looks like she’s fine, but we never really know.
What are the kids doing?
My girls are wanting to decorate for Halloween; they’ve been bugging me. I’d like to get out and do something with y’all, make a day of it, I guess.
I get these flare-ups, and it might be harder to deal with emotionally than it is to deal with the physical pain because I’m not this person, and I don’t want this to happen to me. I get down on myself, which probably doesn’t make it better, but I want to be there for the family.
I want to show up for all of us. Danielle met up with another mom of multiples to talk about their experiences and wants to set up a mom’s group.
I mean, I would love to start some type of multiples mom’s group. We can even bring the dads; the dads will watch the kids, and the moms will chat. That would be incredible. It’s nice to talk with Mandy and just be able to relate.
Thank you so much; I appreciate you. She only lives a few hours away, so we’re going to try to meet up before the holidays. Adam says he’s worried about Danielle adding too much to her plate.
I was chatting with her and thinking about getting multiple moms together to share knowledge and support. They need support in such a unique way, like women that I feel I could help. When things are already difficult, Danielle finds a way to add more to her plate.
I think a support group is a great idea, and Danielle would be awesome at it, but she’s at a point where she needs to focus on herself. I feel a calling to outreach to other women who are going through similar experiences.
We’re preparing for Halloween. After decorating, Adam and Danielle took the kids to a haunted house. This is Y’s first real haunted house.
I can’t stand putting the kids through this. It’s great the girls are asking about it; not long ago, we couldn’t even walk past this place. Some girls didn’t want to go through the haunted house, but the ones who did had a good time. My dad said to close my eyes, and I freaked out.
I liked the 3D part, but the spinning part hurt my eyes. I felt like I was going to throw up. We’re back outside now. R was scared but liked it. I’m surprised some of them enjoyed the haunted house.
Danielle and Adam then went on a couple’s retreat to work on their relationship. They focused so much on their kids that they feared they might not know each other when the kids leave home. Communication issues are a big reason for marriage failures.
The retreat discussed love languages; Danielle’s is acts of service, while Adam’s is words of affirmation and physical touch.
Opposites attract, but it makes things difficult. During a one-on-one, Adam admitted he plays good cop because he craves love and attention from the girls, which he feels he doesn’t get from Danielle. Hearing this was hard for Danielle, making her feel sad.
The episode ended with Danielle telling Aunt Kiki she plans to go to therapy. She doesn’t like being emotional and deals with stress as a mom. She wants to change and not keep feeling like this, dedicating an hour to benefit and grow from it.
